近两年由于陷入鸡娃的泥沼不能自拔,所以护肤、看电影还有这个公众号什么的都无暇顾及。说是“鸡娃”是抬举自己了,顶多就是努力跟上大部队的步伐~~~从来不以娃为中心的我,这几年将“以娃喜,以娃悲”发挥到及至,娃考好了,请吃饭;娃没考好,拉着人家絮絮叨叨的抒发半天心里的郁闷。搞得大家都以为我是有多重视学习,多功利的一个妈妈~~~
其实学习成绩从来不是我的评价体系里最重要的一项指标。在分数最为重要的学生时期,别人是想着提高分数,我天天想的和做的是怎样全面发展,不让人觉得自己是个只会读书的书呆子。所以对于自己的娃,我教育的底线是至少不成为思想狭隘、自私和自我为中心的人。但是这些都需要具有一定的学习能力,才能扩展自己对世界上人和事的认识,从而不会成为我最担心的那类人。这是我一直想跟娃说但是又担心说不清楚的事情。正好最近娃看了我给她买的一本儿童哲学书,尽然天天开始担心自己会死,担心到平日倒床就睡的人睡不着觉,还问我“既然人都要死的,那活着还有什么意义呢?”这真是难为我这种钢铁理科生了。于是找了好多书看,而这本“你想活出怎样的人生”就是批着心里鸡汤类的外衣,但是讲的却是异常质朴,并且我十分认同的原则性的生而为人真正重要的东西。
关于学习:
“……无论是谁,个人经验总是有限的。人类拥有语言,因此可以将自己的经验分享给他人,也可以倾听了解他人的经验。而且人类发明了文字,可以通过书籍互相传递经验,并对比不同的人在不同场合的经验,从各方面汇总。这样尽可能多方面地汇总经验,以不冲突的方式整合在一起,就是做学问。可以说,各种学问都是将人类至今为止的经验汇总起来形成的。人们从前一个时代继承经验,在此基础上再积累新的经验,才能从与野兽无异的状态进化到今天。如果每个人都像猿猴一样重新再来一遍,就永远都会和猿猴一样,绝对无法达到今天的文明。因此我们要尽可能钻研学问,从人类积累至今的经验中获得知识,否则耗费再大的精力也没用。在此基础上,竭尽全力解决人类发展至今仍然无法解决的问题,在这样的条件下产生的发现,オ是人类真正的发现,才能被称为伟大。” 我想你已经明白了学习的必要性,不需要我再多说什么了。如果想获得伟大的发现,首要任务就是拼命学习,登上这个时代的学问顶峰,然后在顶峰上工作。但是,为了在顶峰上工作,为了登上顶峰。小哥白尼,你要牢记,不能丢失你半夜醒来后对疑问穷追不含的精神。
关于看待事物的方法:
“人习惯以自己为中心思考、判断事物;即使长大了,这种特性同样根深蒂固。等你长大了就会明白,在广大的世界上,能完全改掉以自己为中心思考的习惯的人,其实非常稀少。尤其碰到事关利害得失的时候,要跳脱自己的立场作出正确的判断,实在很难。面对利害得失如果还能抱持像哥白尼那样的想法,可说是非常了不起。大多数人往往陷入自私的想法,所以看不清真相,只看得到对自己有利的事。 如果人一直坚信地球是宇宙的中心,恐怕就无法了解宇宙真正的样貌;同样地,总是以自我为中心判断事物,也会让人不了解周遭事物的真相。这种人一定看不清重大的真理。平时我们当然会说是太阳升起、落下。有关这些日常的事物,按照习惯这么说并无大碍。不过,如果想了解宇宙的重大真理,就得舍弃那样得想法。世上其他事物其实也一样。”
关于对人的看法:
“重要的不是世俗的眼光或其他,而是你自己必须从灵魂深处了解人到底是什么地方了不起。然后,必须激发自己的向上心,打从心底想成为了不起的人。好事就是好事,坏事就是坏事,逐一判断好坏的时候,以及做你判断的好事的时候,都得贯彻从你胸中涌现的热切的情感。我并不是要模仿北见的口头禅,不过你必须有[不管谁怎么说]的决心。 如果你不这么做,即使我和你母亲期望你成为了不起的人,即使你自己也想成为了不起的人,恐怕你只能成为[看起来了不起的人],不能成为真正[了不起的人]。世界上有许多人喜欢表现得让别人觉得他们很了不起,这些人最在意别人怎么看自己,总是忽略了真正的自己、原来的自己是什么样的人。我不希望你成为这样的人。 所以,小哥白尼,我再重复一次,你必须珍惜自己的感受和深深感动的事。不要忘记这些事,而且要认真思考这些事的意义。”
关于贫穷:
“小哥白尼,随着你长大成人,你会渐渐知道:贫穷的人在生活中基本上都很自卑。褴楼的衣衫、脏乱的家,还有每天简单的食物,都很容易就让他们无地自容。当然,也有生来贫穷但依然很自信的高尚入士,但在这世上,很多人都会在有钱人面前完全抬不起头来,好像自己低人一等,只会胡乱点头哈腰。这种人自然得不到别人的尊重,倒不是因为他们没钱,而是因为他们卑怯的性格,受人蔑视也没办法。但是,小哥白尼,就算是自導心很强的人,一旦陷入贫穷,也会因某些事而感到自卑,这是人之常情。所以,我们不要忘记时时谨言慎行,以免让他们感到自卑。对于人来说,再没有什么比自尊心受伤更糟糕的体验了。贫穷的人常会有那样糟糕的体验,因此千万不能在无意中伤害他们容易受伤的自尊心。 从道理上说,就算贫穷,也不应该因此而自卑。人真正的价值并不存在于穿着、住宅和食物中。无论穿着多么名贵的衣服、住着多么奢华的宅邸,笨蛋就是笨蛋,小人就是小人,作为人的价值不会因此而提高。若是心灵高洁、博学多闻的人,即使贫穷、也是值得尊敬的、了不起的人。因此,若人为自己拥有的价值抱有真正的自信,那么无论境遇如何,都可以生得心如止水。作为人,在贫穷的境中不该看低自己,在富移的生活中也不要自以为是。自始至终,我们都必须着眼于自己作为人的价值。如果还因贫穷而自卑,就证明作为人还远未合格。”
……好吧,希望于辰辰共勉之~~~
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