近两年由于陷入鸡娃的泥沼不能自拔，所以护肤、看电影还有这个公众号什么的都无暇顾及。说是“鸡娃”是抬举自己了，顶多就是努力跟上大部队的步伐~~~从来不以娃为中心的我，这几年将“以娃喜，以娃悲”发挥到及至，娃考好了，请吃饭；娃没考好，拉着人家絮絮叨叨的抒发半天心里的郁闷。搞得大家都以为我是有多重视学习，多功利的一个妈妈~~~
其实学习成绩从来不是我的评价体系里最重要的一项指标。在分数最为重要的学生时期，别人是想着提高分数，我天天想的和做的是怎样全面发展，不让人觉得自己是个只会读书的书呆子。所以对于自己的娃，我教育的底线是至少不成为思想狭隘、自私和自我为中心的人。但是这些都需要具有一定的学习能力，才能扩展自己对世界上人和事的认识，从而不会成为我最担心的那类人。这是我一直想跟娃说但是又担心说不清楚的事情。正好最近娃看了我给她买的一本儿童哲学书，尽然天天开始担心自己会死，担心到平日倒床就睡的人睡不着觉，还问我“既然人都要死的，那活着还有什么意义呢？”这真是难为我这种钢铁理科生了。于是找了好多书看，而这本“你想活出怎样的人生”就是批着心里鸡汤类的外衣，但是讲的却是异常质朴，并且我十分认同的原则性的生而为人真正重要的东西。
关于学习：
“……无论是谁，个人经验总是有限的。人类拥有语言，因此可以将自己的经验分享给他人，也可以倾听了解他人的经验。而且人类发明了文字，可以通过书籍互相传递经验，并对比不同的人在不同场合的经验，从各方面汇总。这样尽可能多方面地汇总经验，以不冲突的方式整合在一起，就是做学问。可以说，各种学问都是将人类至今为止的经验汇总起来形成的。人们从前一个时代继承经验，在此基础上再积累新的经验，才能从与野兽无异的状态进化到今天。如果每个人都像猿猴一样重新再来一遍，就永远都会和猿猴一样，绝对无法达到今天的文明。因此我们要尽可能钻研学问，从人类积累至今的经验中获得知识，否则耗费再大的精力也没用。在此基础上，竭尽全力解决人类发展至今仍然无法解决的问题，在这样的条件下产生的发现，オ是人类真正的发现，才能被称为伟大。” 我想你已经明白了学习的必要性，不需要我再多说什么了。如果想获得伟大的发现，首要任务就是拼命学习，登上这个时代的学问顶峰，然后在顶峰上工作。但是，为了在顶峰上工作，为了登上顶峰。小哥白尼，你要牢记，不能丢失你半夜醒来后对疑问穷追不含的精神。
关于看待事物的方法：
“人习惯以自己为中心思考、判断事物；即使长大了，这种特性同样根深蒂固。等你长大了就会明白，在广大的世界上，能完全改掉以自己为中心思考的习惯的人，其实非常稀少。尤其碰到事关利害得失的时候，要跳脱自己的立场作出正确的判断，实在很难。面对利害得失如果还能抱持像哥白尼那样的想法，可说是非常了不起。大多数人往往陷入自私的想法，所以看不清真相，只看得到对自己有利的事。 如果人一直坚信地球是宇宙的中心，恐怕就无法了解宇宙真正的样貌；同样地，总是以自我为中心判断事物，也会让人不了解周遭事物的真相。这种人一定看不清重大的真理。平时我们当然会说是太阳升起、落下。有关这些日常的事物，按照习惯这么说并无大碍。不过，如果想了解宇宙的重大真理，就得舍弃那样得想法。世上其他事物其实也一样。”
关于对人的看法：
“重要的不是世俗的眼光或其他，而是你自己必须从灵魂深处了解人到底是什么地方了不起。然后，必须激发自己的向上心，打从心底想成为了不起的人。好事就是好事，坏事就是坏事，逐一判断好坏的时候，以及做你判断的好事的时候，都得贯彻从你胸中涌现的热切的情感。我并不是要模仿北见的口头禅，不过你必须有［不管谁怎么说］的决心。 如果你不这么做，即使我和你母亲期望你成为了不起的人，即使你自己也想成为了不起的人，恐怕你只能成为［看起来了不起的人］，不能成为真正［了不起的人］。世界上有许多人喜欢表现得让别人觉得他们很了不起，这些人最在意别人怎么看自己，总是忽略了真正的自己、原来的自己是什么样的人。我不希望你成为这样的人。 所以，小哥白尼，我再重复一次，你必须珍惜自己的感受和深深感动的事。不要忘记这些事，而且要认真思考这些事的意义。”
关于贫穷：
“小哥白尼，随着你长大成人，你会渐渐知道：贫穷的人在生活中基本上都很自卑。褴楼的衣衫、脏乱的家，还有每天简单的食物，都很容易就让他们无地自容。当然，也有生来贫穷但依然很自信的高尚入士，但在这世上，很多人都会在有钱人面前完全抬不起头来，好像自己低人一等，只会胡乱点头哈腰。这种人自然得不到别人的尊重，倒不是因为他们没钱，而是因为他们卑怯的性格，受人蔑视也没办法。但是，小哥白尼，就算是自導心很强的人，一旦陷入贫穷，也会因某些事而感到自卑，这是人之常情。所以，我们不要忘记时时谨言慎行，以免让他们感到自卑。对于人来说，再没有什么比自尊心受伤更糟糕的体验了。贫穷的人常会有那样糟糕的体验，因此千万不能在无意中伤害他们容易受伤的自尊心。 从道理上说，就算贫穷，也不应该因此而自卑。人真正的价值并不存在于穿着、住宅和食物中。无论穿着多么名贵的衣服、住着多么奢华的宅邸，笨蛋就是笨蛋，小人就是小人，作为人的价值不会因此而提高。若是心灵高洁、博学多闻的人，即使贫穷、也是值得尊敬的、了不起的人。因此，若人为自己拥有的价值抱有真正的自信，那么无论境遇如何，都可以生得心如止水。作为人，在贫穷的境中不该看低自己，在富移的生活中也不要自以为是。自始至终，我们都必须着眼于自己作为人的价值。如果还因贫穷而自卑，就证明作为人还远未合格。”
……好吧，希望于辰辰共勉之~~~
You actually make it appear really easy with your presentation but I find
this matter to be actually something which I feel I’d by no
means understand. It kind of feels too complex and extremely
broad for me. I am having a look ahead on your next publish, I
will attempt to get the hold of it!
I know this web site presents quality based content and other stuff,
is there any other website which provides these
kinds of data in quality?
I just could not go away your website prior to suggesting that I actually loved the standard info a person supply
in your guests? Is going to be again continuously to check up on new posts
I take pleasure in, cause I found just what I was having a look for.
You have ended my 4 day long hunt! God Bless you man. Have a great day.
Bye
Generally I don’t learn article on blogs, however I wish to say that this write-up very forced me to check out and do so!
Your writing taste has been surprised me. Thanks,
quite nice post.
Hi, I do think this is an excellent blog. I stumbledupon it 😉 I’m going
to come back once again since I book marked it. Money and
freedom is the greatest way to change, may you
be rich and continue to help other people.
Simply wish to say your article is as astonishing.
The clearness in your post is simply great and i could assume you’re an expert on this subject.
Well with your permission let me to grab your feed to keep updated with forthcoming post.
Thanks a million and please carry on the rewarding work.
Amazing! Its genuinely amazing paragraph, I have got much clear idea on the topic of
from this paragraph.
You actually make it appear really easy along with your presentation however I find
this matter to be really something which I think I would never understand.
It kind of feels too complicated and very wide for me.
I am taking a look forward for your next submit, I’ll
attempt to get the grasp of it!
Attractive section of content. I just stumbled upon your website and in accession capital to assert that I get in fact enjoyed account your
blog posts. Any way I’ll be subscribing to your augment
and even I achievement you access consistently quickly.
I loved as much as you’ll receive carried out right here.
The sketch is tasteful, your authored material stylish. nonetheless, you
command get bought an impatience over that you
wish be delivering the following. unwell unquestionably come more formerly again as exactly the same
nearly very often inside case you shield this hike.
You actually make it seem so easy with your presentation but I find this topic to be really one thing
which I feel I’d by no means understand. It kind of feels too complicated and very broad for me.
I am looking ahead to your subsequent put up, I’ll attempt to
get the hang of it!
I don’t even understand how I ended up here,
however I thought this put up was good. I do not recognise who you might be but certainly you’re going to
a famous blogger for those who are not already. Cheers!
I am really impressed with your writing skills and also with the
layout on your blog. Is this a paid theme or did you modify it yourself?
Either way keep up the nice quality writing, it is rare to see a great blog like this one nowadays.
Very nice article, exactly what I needed.
Wow that was unusual. I just wrote an incredibly long comment but after I clicked submit my
comment didn’t appear. Grrrr… well I’m not writing all that over again. Anyways, just wanted to say excellent blog!
Very good information. Lucky me I recently found your blog
by chance (stumbleupon). I have book marked it for later!
Do you have a spam issue on this site; I also am a blogger,
and I was wanting to know your situation; many of us have developed some nice practices
and we are looking to exchange strategies with others, why not
shoot me an email if interested.
If some one wishes to be updated with hottest technologies after that
he must be pay a quick visit this web page and be up to date everyday.
I was wondering if you ever thought of changing the layout
of your blog? Its very well written; I love what youve
got to say. But maybe you could a little more in the way of content so
people could connect with it better. Youve got an awful lot of text for only having one
or two images. Maybe you could space it out better?
Good day! Would you mind if I share your blog with my facebook group?
There’s a lot of people that I think would really appreciate
your content. Please let me know. Thanks
I have been exploring for a bit for any high quality articles or
weblog posts in this sort of area . Exploring in Yahoo I finally stumbled upon this web site.
Reading this info So i am satisfied to exhibit that I have a very excellent uncanny feeling I found out exactly what I
needed. I most undoubtedly will make sure to don?t put out of your
mind this web site and provides it a glance on a continuing basis.
If you are going for most excellent contents like I do, simply go to see this web page daily since it offers quality contents, thanks
Very nice article, just what I needed.
I like it when people get together and share thoughts.
Great website, stick with it!
Great article, just what I was looking for.
If you are going for most excellent contents like myself,
only pay a visit this web site daily since it gives quality
contents, thanks
Hey! I know this is kinda off topic but I was wondering which
blog platform are you using for this website? I’m getting tired of WordPress because I’ve had
issues with hackers and I’m looking at options for
another platform. I would be awesome if you
could point me in the direction of a good platform.
Excellent post. Keep writing such kind of information on your
blog. Im really impressed by your blog.
Hi there, You have performed a great job. I’ll definitely digg
it and in my opinion recommend to my friends. I am sure they’ll
be benefited from this web site.
hi!,I like your writing so a lot! percentage we keep in touch more about your article on AOL?
I need an expert on this space to unravel my problem.
May be that’s you! Taking a look forward to peer you.
Have you ever considered about including a little bit more than just your articles?
I mean, what you say is fundamental and everything.
But think about if you added some great pictures or video clips to give your posts more, “pop”!
Your content is excellent but with images and clips, this blog could certainly be one of the
most beneficial in its field. Awesome blog!
Have you ever considered about including a little bit more than just your articles?
I mean, what you say is fundamental and all. However imagine if you
added some great images or video clips to give your posts more,
“pop”! Your content is excellent but with pics and video clips, this site could definitely be one of the most beneficial in its field.
Excellent blog!
For hottest news you have to pay a visit world wide web and on web I found this web page as a
best site for most up-to-date updates.
Wow, this article is fastidious, my sister is analyzing these kinds
of things, thus I am going to inform her.
Wonderful work! This is the type of information that are supposed to be shared around the internet.
Disgrace on Google for no longer positioning this submit higher!
Come on over and visit my site . Thank you =)
I simply couldn’t go away your site before suggesting
that I extremely loved the standard info a person supply for your guests?
Is going to be again continuously to investigate cross-check new posts
Hi Dear, are you genuinely visiting this site daily, if so afterward you
will definitely take nice knowledge.
I savour, result in I discovered exactly what I used
to be looking for. You have ended my 4 day lengthy hunt! God Bless you man. Have a nice day.
Bye
Hey there! Quick question that’s completely off topic. Do you know how to
make your site mobile friendly? My blog looks weird when viewing
from my iphone. I’m trying to find a theme or plugin that might be able to resolve
this issue. If you have any recommendations, please
share. With thanks!
Thanks for ones marvelous posting! I certainly enjoyed reading it, you’re a great author.
I will always bookmark your blog and may come back later in life.
I want to encourage you to continue your great writing, have
a nice day!
Hi, the whole thing is going perfectly here and ofcourse every one is sharing information,
that’s in fact good, keep up writing.
Nice post. I used to be checking constantly this weblog and I am inspired!
Very useful info specifically the closing part :
) I care for such info much. I used to be seeking this particular
info for a very long time. Thank you and good luck.
Hello, Neat post. There is an issue with your site in internet explorer, might check this?
IE still is the marketplace leader and a big component to folks will pass over your excellent writing due to this problem.
Hi! This post could not be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me of my good old
room mate! He always kept talking about this.
I will forward this post to him. Fairly certain he will have a good
read. Thank you for sharing!
Wow! This blog looks exactly like my old one! It’s on a completely different topic but it has pretty
much the same page layout and design. Excellent choice
of colors!
I like the helpful info you provide on your articles. I will
bookmark your blog and check once more right here frequently.
I’m relatively certain I will be told many new stuff right right here!
Best of luck for the following!
Attractive section of content. I just stumbled upon your blog and in accession capital to assert that I get actually enjoyed account
your blog posts. Any way I will be subscribing to your augment and
even I achievement you access consistently quickly.
Very good information. Lucky me I came across your website by accident (stumbleupon).
I have saved it for later!
you are truly a excellent webmaster. The site loading speed is amazing.
It sort of feels that you are doing any distinctive trick.
Moreover, The contents are masterpiece. you have done a fantastic activity on this topic!
Having read this I thought it was extremely enlightening.
I appreciate you taking the time and effort to put this short article
together. I once again find myself personally spending a significant amount of time both reading and commenting.
But so what, it was still worthwhile!